Manipulating Time

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I’m ready to put some distance between myself and the distance. The endless cycle of saying goodbye, the agonizing afterward, the reconstruction of normal life without the one I love the most, the routine, the longing, the anticipation, the hours I wait, the hello, all of the joy and the wonder of being near, and then anticipation of another approaching goodbye. 

I’m ready to be in an LDR with long distance itself.

So I have invented ways to rediscover time in less painful ways. If I can think of time on different terms, I automatically feel better.

For example, 108 days until our “I do’s” is much less doable than 15 weeks. If I focus on the weeks rather than days, I’m a little bit more hopeful.

If he comes home in 24 hours, I can sleep at least eight of those to make it less painful.

Three weeks five times is much better than 15 weeks, and the fact that we are 71.5% of the way through our engagement and have only 29.62% of a year’s duration is comforting.

I get to see him about once a month (I know, I’m really blessed! A lot of military SO’s have it much much worse, and I’ve experienced some of that as well.) But basically, while it’s super sad I only get to see him four more times, it’s awesome that I only have to see him four more times until I can marry him and see him everydayyyyyyyy.

Only x amount of times of etc. etc. etc.

Everything is accounted for in terms of when I will get to see him next or marry him. He’s heard “only three more sleeps!” a few times, and I always update him on the latest time manipulation. A year is not that long, almost thirty percent is doable. 

I can wait. Even apart, our hearts are together. I love him enough to wait longer than this year of engagement. I love him enough to wait any amount of time it would take to be able to always be with him for the rest of my life.

In around 9,342,000 seconds, I’ll be getting married.

But to put it more hopefully, here is the best time manipulation tactic I've found so far: only four more periods before I get to be married. With that in mind, it won't be long. 

-Sara

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